What is love?

Heart-Love-Sky-Hands-Silhouette__1920x1200                                                                                               Love. It’s a word we’ve heard twenty some million times. It’s an addiction, it’s a craving, it’s poison. It is what it is. It’s love.

“Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.” -Aristotle

“Love is when he gives you a piece of your soul, that you never knew was missing.” -Torquato Tasso

“Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don’t know how to replenish its source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of witherings, of tarnishings.” -Anais Nin

“Love is a fire. But whether it is going to warm your hearth or burn down your house, you can never tell.” -Joan Crawford

“Sometimes love means letting go when you want to hold on tighter.” -Melissa Marr

“We love because it’s the only true adventure.” -Nikki Giovanni

“Love doesn’t make the world go round, love is what makes the ride worthwhile.” -Elizabeth Browning

“It is love, not reason, that is stronger than death.” -Thomas Mann

“Lovers don’t finally meet something. They’re in each other all along.” -Rumi

“Love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness.” -Oliver Wendell Holmes

“Maybe love is like luck. You have to go all the way to find it.”-Robert Mitchum

“Love is like war: Easy to begin but hard to end.” -Anonymous

“Love is more than three words mumbled before bedtime. Love is sustained by action, a pattern of devotion in the things we do for each other every day.” -Nicholas Sparks

“Love is like a violin. The music may stop now and then, but the strings remain forever.” -Unknown

So when you forget what love is, or don’t know how to find it, read the above. Love is like the circle of life- it never ends, but did it ever really begin? You never know when you’ll find it, and you never know how it will happen.

So when you’re ready to fall in love, and you feel that one little thing holding you back.

Just close your eyes, don’t think.

And jump. 

XOXO,

B

What Is A Best Friend?

A best friend is a person that you’ve promised to be friends forever.

A best friend is a person that people have thought was your sister.

A best friend is a person that you wished was your sister.

A best friend is a person that you feel comfortable around.

A best friend is a person that you love unconditionally.

A best friend is a person that you’ll never betray.

A best friend is a person that completes you.

A best friend is a person who loves all your flaws.

And you love her’s too, if there’s any at all.

A best friend is when you have the same mind.

A best friend is a person with a thousand inside jokes between you.

It’s too bad you’ve forgotten just about half of them.

A best friend is a person you can communicate with only through facial expressions.

A best friend is the person you’re thinking about right now.

A best friend is the person you know will always take your side.

A best friend is that someone who’ll never leave your side.

A best friend is the person that completes your sentences.

And you love all the same stuff, because otherwise, what’s the fun?

A best friend is a person to whom you’re exactly alike.

But then again, you couldn’t be more different in any other light.

A best friend is a person that you constantly think of.

And miss her too, even though she’s not that special.

A best friend is someone you have a million pictures with.

And most of them are weird, but that just makes you love them more.

A best friend is a person who you decide your outfits with.

And have matching clothes or jewelry- or just matching lockets.

A best friend is someone who you’d date if you weren’t straight.

And you can change in front of them too, because if not them, then who?

A best friend is someone who reminds you to do everything.

And yells at you constantly, but it’s only okay with them.

A best friend is a person that you call when you’re sad.

A best friend is the one who can always make you laugh.

A best friend is a person who has changed your life.

And she’s changed yours, too, more than she will ever know.

A best friend is someone that you love with all your heart. And losing her would be worse than anything you could ever imagine. She is a part of you, and you are a part of her. You are one of the same, and deep down you know you’ll always be that way. You finish each other’s sentences, wipe each other’s tears- but it’s so much more than that.

You are connected on a deeper level that nobody else can really understand. And it’s because of that that you know that you’ll always be best friends. Because you can’t imagine anyone ever taking her place. You need and love each other in a way that’s truly special-because that’s what a best friend is.

Things I’ve Learned

I’ve learned that sometimes your best friend won’t love you as much as you love her. And that’s okay.

I’ve learned that your mom has always been there for you, and will always be there for you.

I’ve learned that some people will hurt you, in awful, terrible ways. But that doesn’t make it wrong to love them.

I’ve learned that it’s okay to hold a grudge.

But I’ve also learned that letting go is one of the best things of all.

I’ve learned that some friends will be with you forever.

And even if they’re not, you’ll still be okay. You’ll always be okay.

I’ve learned that you can choose to be happy, and you can choose to be all right.

But just all the same, you can’t control everything.

I’ve learned that you won’t always like your friends. You’ve just got to learn to deal.

I’ve learned that speaking out is good, but you also need to know when to stay silent.

I’ve learned that some people won’t always protect you. That doesn’t mean they don’t love you.

I’ve learned that just because someone’s your parent, doesn’t mean that he/she’s a good parent.

I’ve learned that you can find the world in one, single person.

Or even find your life in one single creation.

I’ve learned that nobody will understand you as well as you do.

But all the same, there will always be people looking out for you.

I’ve learned that times are tough, and life is sad.

But that doesn’t mean that it’ll all be bad.

I’ve learned that there are more important things than being successful.

I’ve learned that some people don’t have the same views as you. And that’s okay.

I’ve learned that everyone is special. But you don’t need to be special to be happy.

I’ve learned that happiness is a thing you can never define. But then again, what’s something that you can really, truly define?

I’ve learned that a family is something you can never replace.

And a sister can sometimes be more than just a sister. She can be your mother, your friend, your soul sister.

I’ve learned that your mother will always love you.

Even if sometimes you don’t deserve them to.

I’ve learned that people come and go.

I’ve learned that sometimes you just can’t forget.

And the past is the past, and it doesn’t matter yet.

I’ve learned that being alone is hard.

But what’s even worse is being surrounded by people, and never feeling safe.

I’ve learned that some people have it harder than others.

And others might not understand, but it’s not their fault.

I’ve learned that you can hate, with a passion so big.

But forgiveness is better, and will heal you forever.

I’ve learned that sometimes you’ll just want to die.

But never give up, just keep trying.

I’ve learned that you might not love yourself.

But you should. Because you are one of a kind. And you deserve your happy ending.

But the most important thing I’ve learned is that everything is temporary.

So when you’re having a bad day, or feeling down.

Just remember it won’t last forever.

One day it’ll all be okay.

And when it is, you’ll be glad you held on.

XOXO,

B

20 Time-Stopping Quotes

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Orange is The New Black is important. And while there might be episodes that drag on, and characters you want to kill, it doesn’t change the fact that Orange is The New Black is a huge step for society.

Don’t believe me? Here are 20 breathtaking quotes to prove just how amazing Orange Is The New Black really is.

1. “I’m gonna go ahead and guess that one of the issues here is your need to say a person is exactly anything.” -Carl

2. “I’m scared that I’m not myself and I’m scared that I am.” – Piper

3.  “Problems are problems. We all make bad choices. Just some of us have different bad choices to make.” -Tricia

4. “I think that when you have a connection with someone, it never really goes away, you know?” -Alex

5. Because my life is sad and small and a burden to those I love.” – Red

6. “Love. It’s just chilling, you know? Kicking it with somebody, talking, making mad stupid jokes. And, like, not even wanting to go to sleep, cause then you might be without ’em for a minute. And you don’t want that.” -Poussey

7. “You can’t blame the wolf. Lamb’s delicious. That’s smart eating.” -Nicky

8. “Because a real friend doesn’t have to dance around the subject, and a real friend just tells it like it is.” -Pennsatucky

9. “You know what is crazy? I still wanna believe in all of this stuff. Even after everything that’s happened. Isn’t that sad?” -Morello

10. “Yeah, I know something about loving people who aren’t smart enough to wanna be loved back.” -Suzanne (Crazy Eyes)

11. “I don’t care. I love him.” – Daya

12. “Pain, horrible pain, that you want again and again.” -Sophia (After being asked what love is like)

13. “Suppose…that someone she loved was in there with her. Someone she had history with. Someone who could understand her life in there a way I’ll never be able to. It would be devastating to think that that person could give her something I can’t. It would be a betrayal.” -Larry

14. “It’s like coming home after a long trip. That’s what love is like. It’s like coming home.” -Piper

15. “We’re allowed to feel shitty about things in our lives that are shitty.” -Polly

16. “Honey, you don’t drink poison and wait for it to kill your enemy.” -Red

17. “Does anybody ever ask me how my day is going?” -Mendez

18. “Hope is a dangerous thing.” -Claudette

19. “At the end of the day you are a garden rose, and that b**** is a weed.” -Vee

20. “Yeah, you only get one chance to break my heart.” -Nicky

All these quotes, along with heartbreaking scenes and events, make up one of the most amazing shows I have ever watched. I am so thankful to OITNB because it has taught me so much, and shown me so much about what life is like.

I hope that all of you will allow this amazing show to impact you in the same way it has affected me.

XOXO,

B

Simple, Life-Changing Comforts

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So while most people I know aren’t constantly belting ‘It’s The Hard Knock Life,’ the majority have heard of or seen the iconic show Annie. Having been in this production myself, I learned a great deal of valuable lessons. But the most important thing I learned was about happiness.

I learned that the sun will always come out tomorrow.

So when you’re feeling down, or having a bad day, take a deep breath. Close your eyes, relax, and follow these tips in order to make your sunshine a little brighter.

1. Shower/Bath

This might seem like a no-brainer, but it really helps. If you’ve been having a bad day, nothing is more relaxing than a nice warm shower.

2. Brush Your Teeth

This might just be a weird habit of mine, but I always feel better after brushing my teeth. It’s almost like I’m cleansing a part of my body, and it just feels really good. So jump out of bed, and brush your teeth!

3. Eat

One of the most important things to do when you’re feeling down is to make sure you eat. When I’m feeling upset one thing I often do is cut down on my meals and that is very, very bad. Give yourself a treat. Order from that new Chinese restaurant, or eat that extra slice of cake. You deserve it.

4. Water

Make sure to stay hydrated. That’s the first step (or fourth) to anything.

5. Warm Drinks

Nothing like some nice hot cocoa or tea to make you feel better on a rainy day.

6. Favorite Clothes

Get out of those icky work clothes and change into your nice PJs. It’s okay if you haven’t worn them since you were nine. Wear whatever you feel comfortable and cozy in, and I guarantee you’ll see improvement.

7. Run

I know, it sounds terrible. But I promise, after the first few days it gets better. And after a while, it really starts to get better and can make a huge impact on your life.

8. Small –> Big

This is one of the most important lessons I have ever learned in my life. And that is this: the small things you do gradually turn into major things. In other words, doing stretches every morning will turn into a daily routine. Running ten minutes every day could turn into an hour every day. So keep at it, and don’t give up.

9. Find What You Love

I managed to find an amazing hobby at something I’d been doing for years. I’d been practicing this particular hobby of mine for a while, but suddenly it became an entirely different for me. It was my addiction, my life. Nothing felt as amazing to me as this, and I am eternally grateful because it really turned my life around. So please, find what you love and don’t ever let it go.

10. Brush Your Hair

Like the brushing your teeth thing, this is just something that I love. There’s just something comforting about getting the ragged knots out of your hair.

11. Clean Your Room

I know-yuck! But once you are in a clean environment, you’ll start to feel better as well.

12. Talk

To yourself, your best friend, or your dog. It doesn’t matter. Just talk about how you feel. Once you let it all out, you’ll feel better inside.

13. Start a journal

This is a personal little thing of mine that I love to do, but there’s so many different variations of this. You could make videos, do photography, start a blog-anything! Just find something that you can throw your entire heart and soul into.

14. Netflix It Out

Sometimes the best thing is to just sit back and watch seven seasons of Friends.

15. Set A Goal

And keep, it too. Maybe you want to get up every morning at 7:30. Maybe you want to climb Mount Everest. It doesn’t matter, just set a goal, and make a promise to yourself. And keep that promise, because someday you’ll be grateful you did.

16. Gardening

I’ve never actually done this myself, but I’ve heard it can be really relaxing, and I imagine that it’s true. Just to be alone, outside in beautiful nature. It sounds breathtaking, doesn’t it?

17. Yoga

This is something that I’ve semi-done, and believe me, it’s amazing. It’s totally relaxing, and can have a major effect on your life.

18. Unleash Your Inner Child

One of my favorite things to do when I’m feeling crappy is to throw on gorgeous clothes, blast my favorite pop music, and dance around my room. I make an effort to be worse every time. Yeah, it might be weird, but I love it, and it always makes me feel better. It reminds me of when I was seven, and would throw on a High School Musical cap and try to imitate all their moves. So find your inner kid, and unleash it!

19. Sleep

If you’re tired, sleep. If you got less than six hours of sleep last night, sleep. If you want to sleep, sleep.

20. Play With Animals

Kind of a no-brainer, animals are better than humans right? Especially puppies. I’m not saying to go out and buy a dog, but go visit an animal shelter!

21. Stuffed Animals

Go out and buy a bunch! What more can I say? The cuddlier, the better!

22. Lean On A Friend

If you need to talk to someone, pick up that phone. If nothing’s making you feel better, go find your sister, your mom, your dad, your best friend–anyone that will help you feel better. Find someone who cares, and never let them go.

23. Chocolate

Pretty self-explanatory.

24. Kiss The Chef

A really useful skill, plus a delicious meal! Cooking is definitely worth learning, and is definitely something that will help you feel better in the long run.

25. Follow Your Heart

Some people follow their hearts, and some follow their heads. I can’t really say whether one’s better. But what I can say is that when you’re feeling sad, and all you want is a hug, go tell that boy you love him. Go apologize to your best friend, and go hug your mom like you haven’t seen her in a million years.

Because in the end?

It’ll all be worth it.

Don’t forget to like and comment below to tell me what you think. I love feedback, and if you try any of these tips, let me know how it works out for you.

XOXO,

B

19 Things I Hate

Hey guys,

So this is more of a list than an article, but since many items of the list are in relation to social issues, I’m hoping you’ll all enjoy it! So without further ado, here are 19 things that I cannot stand.

1. Women Who Are Anti-Feminists (so you’re basically saying you don’t want equal rights and think getting paid less is fun?)

2. ‘Meninists’ (even writing the term makes me throw up a little bit, this shouldn’t even be a thing)

3. ‘I’m so retarded’ (No, you’re not. You’re stupid for using a degrading term, but that’s not what you are. So seriously, stop it.)

4. A Boy Playing With A Barbie? Disinfect him now! (If you could hear me, you could totally hear the sarcasm in my voice. And maybe I’ve just been watching too many Friends reruns, but am I the only person who is bothered by this? Kids should be allowed to play with whatever they want. Toys shouldn’t be gender-specific.)

5.  Angry = Time of the Month (No, guys, it does not. And if you’re a girl and you’ve made a reference like this, then shame on you.)

6. You’re Not A Girl/Guy (You are whatever you freaking identify yourself as.)

7. Thin = Anorexic (It does not. Having high metabolism and being anorexic are two very different things, so don’t think of them as interchangeable. )

8. Just Get Over It! (Getting over diseases such as anorexia and bullimia can be very, very difficult. You wouldn’t tell someone to just ‘get over’ cancer, would you?)

9. But Your Life Is Fine (‘You have nothing to be depressed about. Your life is perfect!’ You have no idea what could be going on in someone’s life, so stop being a judgmental douche.)

10. Boys Like Girls With Curves (I can’t even listen to you. Don’t tell girls that they should like their bodies based on what guys like. You should love yourself because you’re amazing, and whether you’re fat or skinny or anywhere in between, you are beautiful. Just remember that.)

11. Fat = Ugly (No, it does not. If you are overweight, that means that you are overweight. That is literally all it means.)

12. Changing Children (There is nothing about a nine year old that should make you feel turned on. If that happens to you, you’re a creep. Sorry, have a nice day.)

13. Photoshopping Celebrities (Stop it. They are all beautiful, and have amazing bodies. Stop trying to create unrealistic standards for men and women.)

14. Makeup = Fake (Oh my god, are you telling me that her eyelids are not naturally sparkly blue? Someone alert the media!)

15. Makeup = For Guys (I think you’re cool if you wear makeup. I think you’re cool if you don’t. I think you’re not cool if you think that people who wear makeup wear it for guys.)

16.  Makeup = Posers (Dude, makeup is freaking fun. I am not trying to achieve anything.All I want is for my eyelids to be sparkly and cute. Can you not let me live my life?)

17. You Have To Shave! (I understand that shaving is something that people are expected to do. But what you do not understand is that girls get hair everywhere just like guys do. So if guys don’t have to always shave, then girls don’t have to either. Just cut us some slack, people.)

18. Manliness (If you’re a guy and you want to wear makeup, that does not make you gay. That makes you seriously cool, and you should come over to my house sometime and we can chill.)

19. Racists (You think a Mexicans shouldn’t be in this country? Or that a Muslim is a terrorist? Okay. So since you’re a Christian, I’m going to assume that you’re a creepy pedophile that kills people and takes the Natives’ land or whatever.)

And those are nineteen things that I absolutely cannot stand. So if you do one of the above, you might want to fix that.

XOXO,

B

Caitlyn’s Courageous Choice

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“I’m so happy after such a long struggle to be living my true self. Welcome to the world Caitlyn. Can’t wait for you to get to know her/me.” -Caitlyn Jenner

Caitlyn’s breathtaking words have left me astonished, but what has shocked me even more was the overall reaction to her recent transition. To say that the world took her transformation well would be an understatement. She has inspired countless people, and cast a positive effect on the world around her. Caitlyn is absolutely radiant, but it’s not just her beautiful body and soul that expresses her beauty. It is her words, and how they glow from a place within.

Her words have left me at loss, and I’m proud to say that many people I know feel the same way. She truly has created such a drastic change not only in the transgender community but in the world itself. I am so amazed by her astounding bravery, and am so pleased with her newfound happiness at finding her real self.

Unfortunately, not everyone agrees. One well-known celebrity, Drake Bell, tweeted something very offensive and transphobic in regards to Caitlyn Jenner. He insulted not only her, but the transgender community as a whole, when he tweeted “Sorry….still calling you Bruce.” Of course, most people did not react well. The responses were overwhelming, and a large amount of people lost respect for him. What is even more disturbing is how he deleted his tweet, and pretended as if it never happened. He replaced his distressful tweet with a new one of faux support. His new tweet said “That’s bravery!”

Although he later apologized for his harmful words, it still does not change the injustice he did. Still, Drake Bell is only one of many who are befuddled, upset, and even angry by Caitlyn’s courageous choice.

That leaves me with only one question: Why?

So what if she’s different? Everyone’s different in some ways. Some people have blonde hair. Some people have green eyes. Though some people’s uniqueness are more apparent than others, we all have different qualities that make us who we are.

But we’re also all human. We’re all just people, and at the end of the day we’re all the same under the skin. No matter what race, nationality, skin color, or hair color you have, we are all equal. We are all human beings, and that should mean something. We are all one of the same. We are all a family.

It’s time we started acting like it.

XOXO,

B